ARCHIVE FOR June, 2011

How do you know? Day trips – a new series33

Posted by Deirdre // 06-24-2011


On more than one occasion, my husband and I have decided that we’re DEFINITELY moving to a city or town, even though we have never been and don’t know much about it. Of course when we finally visit with our real estate print-out in hand, we’re sadly disappointed.

There was Northampton, MA because Kim Gordon and Thurston Moore live there – mind you, I never even listened to Sonic Youth! And it turns out that Northampton is a cool little town but also quite cheesy/crunchy and too far to commute from and offering not a lot in terms of work opportunities. We did stop there a while ago on a drive when kiddo #2 was a baby and having a meltdown. We went to a very cool cafe and went for a walk, but then almost literally stumbled over a drunken man sleeping in the bushes while going down a path. Kiddo #1 promptly said “What are you doing?” and he replied, “Taking a nap”.

There was Beacon, NY (it has a contemporary art museum!) and Hudson, NY (a great wine store opened by former Brooklynites!); there was Kent, NH (I really CANNOT tell you why), Red Hook/Tivoli, NY (it’s next to Bard! and has a great school system – not out of the question for the long haul) and many other Hudson border towns too numerous to name. Then my husband’s obsession with Red Bank, NJ because he went to a Wilco show there.

Can Jeff Tweedy lead us to NJ?

We’ve also done our fair share of “Nope, can’t live here.” from the car. Is that really a good way to judge a potential quality of life? I used to shiver when I walked down 7th Ave on the very block we live on (well, I still do). This inability of ours to make a plan has made me realize that there are both others like us, who need help and others much better organized who can help us all! And what better way to learn about a town than from those who live there, really?

A recent post on A Child Grows about a day in Larchmont by The Culture Mom has really brought this idea to the fore. Things to do so that you can check out what it’s like to be a local while looking at houses or just getting out of the city for the day kind of doing research. Maybe a place to change a diaper or get an ice cream cone. Playgrounds, parks, kid-friendly eateries and perhaps bars that allow babies. Ok, restaurants that allow babies. Good coffee? If not, we just don’t go. Petty, you say? Perhaps. You have your own irrational needs, I’m sure.


Inspiration From Someone Who Did It…3

Posted by Deirdre // 06-15-2011


This bio pretty much rocked my world the other day. Ok, so she is probably 10 years younger than me and doesn’t have kids (eg, responsibilities). But she did it – she made the break. “…one day, a series of random events at work led me to Vermont to handle some business matters. The cool air, mountain views, and quirky people lured me in. I began to wish I could stay here. And then all of a sudden I realized…I could!”

VT Farm Girl

It’s not lost on me that she was in advertising (basically the field I’m in) and moved to the outskirts of Burlington, which is the beautiful town where I went to college and learned to love the mountains. Okay, so now that I have kids in school and I’m currently responsible for the insurance and regular paycheck, plus grandparents who would freak if we moved too far away, what’s the solution?
Don’t worry, that was basically a rhetorical question. Visit Alison’s blog, diaryofadairyqueen which now chronicles her days as a real-life farmer.

Leaving means…coming back0

Posted by Deirdre // 06-02-2011


Already having serious re-entry issues and we’re still on 95. We have these feelings almost every time we come back to the city, problem is that we can never turn it into momentum to leave. Too bad neither of us have the job that will transfer us – no, “Well, honey they’re moving me to the Durham office. We leave in 3 months.” That’s what I need – someone to make the decision for me. Any takers?